"It'll be fine!"
How many times do we repeat this to ourselves, to others, hear it said to us? In most instances it is probably true:
It'll be fine if you are short a bag of chips at your party.
It'll be fine if you left the a/c on while nobody's home.
It'll be fine if your shoes don't match your dress that well.
However, there are other instances when we tell ourselves it will be fine when it might not be:
It'll be fine if you spend more than you earn.
It'll be fine if you don't get that injured knee checked out.
It'll be fine if you drill that oil well in the gulf.
One of the Eight Limbs of Yoga is Yama, or Universal Morality. One of the yamas is Satya, or truthfulness. Part of being truthful is making honest assessments of our decisions before we finalize them. This makes us more equipped to handle the outcome of our decisions head-on, rather than having to tell ourselves over and over again "it'll be fine."
I read about disastrous situations all the time, and I just can't help but wonder about the one or two people along the way who thought "It'll be fine," and contributed to the huge cover-page story I'm reading. I'm not advocating always fearing the worst or being overly cautious, but we have to own our part in things. Satya demands it.
I have always said think before you say, If you know it isn't going to be fine in the long term, say something like I can handle it for a while, but of course nothing should be risked in any circumstance.
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